Love Yourself this Valentine’s Day

“All fear is past and only Love is here”.  Gerald Jampolsky

But wait, we are over that, right?  Sadly no, even as adults, Valentine’s Day can conjure up the very same feelings of dread of spending the day alone, sadness at having not found the perfect loving relationship and the pressure the culture brings to be a twosome.  Despite being a holiday of love and beauty, Valentine’s Day leaves many people feeling alone, lonely, disappointed, or a failure.  

It is time to refuse to be limited by our culture’s suggestion that in order to be or feel successful you have to have another’s Love; that being alone is to be feared.  To truly experience Love we first need to experience unconditional Love...for ourself, for nothing in our external world will continuously and totally satisfy us.  Of course, it feels wonderful to bask in the drunkeness of falling in love, but when we try to fulfil our needs through others or expect others to satisfy our desires we are often disappointed. 

If you are approaching this Valentine’s Day without that ‘special someone’ in your life, do not abandon the idea of celebrating Love: this is the perfect time to celebrate who you are and all the Love that you have within you.  Claim your freedom from V-day disappointment by exercising your power to see Love instead of fear.  Claim your freedom from fear of being alone, lonely, unlovable, unworthy, or rejected.  Stop spending time worrying about past disappointments or future emptiness as this will leave little room for Love and joy in your present.  The Law of Love is based on the belief that we are completely filled with Love all the time.  Show yourself this reality.

Celebrate Valentines Day by teaching yourself that you are, in fact, the essence of Love.  How do you do that?  By treating yourself with gentleness and kindness...along with a little specialness.  Buy yourself that gorgeous bouquet of roses that in the past you would have saved for someone else, treat yourself to your favourite chocolates, and take time to reflect on all the things you like about you.  Write yourself a love letter in fact and tuck it away in a safe place to read on those other days when you encounter doubt about that.

So this year on Valentine’s Day treat yourself like you would anyone else that you Love unconditionally.  The more you do this everyday, the more love you will have to share.  It’s Valentine’s Day, simply celebrate Love.

Content provided by Dr Toby Silverton and Dr Bev McLagan of Silverton McLagan Coaching.

ABOUT DR TOBY SILVERTON AND DR BEV MCLAGAN
“I change myself, I change the world.” Gloria Anzaldua
Dr Toby Silverton and Dr Bev McLagan run Silverton McLagan Coaching.  They hold PhDs in Counselling Psychology.  They have more than 25 years clinical experience as counselling psychologists, psychotherapists, personal coaches and educators. They moved to the UK from Vancouver in 2009 and coach clients worldwide in person, by phone and online.  

Dr Toby and Dr Bev offer their own unique blend of psychotherapy and coaching, which they call ‘Psychodynamic Coaching’ and which results in ‘change that lasts a lifetime’.  They specialise in working with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) - a group that includes creative artists and other professionals, both women and men, who are usually successful and over-stretched perfectionists - helping them to achieve a ‘Living Balance’.

For more information visit www.livethesolution.com